Sympathy vs Empathy
maybe i just can't be patient. unreasonable. whacky. a bit nuts. etc.
yet, i learnt how to be empathy. it's easy to tell somebody who loss his feet to "be patient". but if we loss the foot of ours, it's not that simple to be patient. being sympathy and empathy is different. empathy is warmer. see me cry and hush me, is just a sympathy. empathy is cry with me.
our modus operandi is being sympathy rather than empathy. we can't get in someone else's shoes unless we had experience wearing the same shoes. i didn't take any councelling courses to provide me this fellow feeling of empathy. but since world itself is a school, so there's something to be learnt. but empathy is something hard to learn by a possessive person. it's not about saying but feeling. that's why sometimes we find that it's hard to give suggestions to someone who seek for solution to her problem. it's not because of she is so stubborn for not listening to our words, but it's us. we fail to be empathy and discover her true feelings.
that's why there's a poem says..
'a simple friend calms you down when you cry, a real friend cries with you'.
sometimes they just need a shoulder for them to cry on, rather than a chain of words to make them calm.
don't expect everybody lives under a same clouds. it's just the same sun, but some are cloudy, some are clear, some might be raining and some are facing thunderstorm...
yet, i learnt how to be empathy. it's easy to tell somebody who loss his feet to "be patient". but if we loss the foot of ours, it's not that simple to be patient. being sympathy and empathy is different. empathy is warmer. see me cry and hush me, is just a sympathy. empathy is cry with me.
our modus operandi is being sympathy rather than empathy. we can't get in someone else's shoes unless we had experience wearing the same shoes. i didn't take any councelling courses to provide me this fellow feeling of empathy. but since world itself is a school, so there's something to be learnt. but empathy is something hard to learn by a possessive person. it's not about saying but feeling. that's why sometimes we find that it's hard to give suggestions to someone who seek for solution to her problem. it's not because of she is so stubborn for not listening to our words, but it's us. we fail to be empathy and discover her true feelings.
that's why there's a poem says..
'a simple friend calms you down when you cry, a real friend cries with you'.
sometimes they just need a shoulder for them to cry on, rather than a chain of words to make them calm.
don't expect everybody lives under a same clouds. it's just the same sun, but some are cloudy, some are clear, some might be raining and some are facing thunderstorm...
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