my dreams

[this message is not suitable for those who are married and those who are blessed to get married]

when i tell friends about my yet-not-come-true dream, most of them expect marriage :P maybe i look too old to be a spinster. nay...! for sure i won't get married until i achieve the level i expected as a single girl.

marriage issue is stink. it makes some of my friends always in bad mood, because of, starting last year, lotsa friends started to erase their 'miss' and put 'mrs' in front of their names. and leave others [those friends] overhelm with a feeling of loser. it's just an emotional game. it's a vague thing. it's an undeniable a sunnah but why must it should drives other lifes become ups and downs just because they are still stay single? we need carbohydrate to live and as malaysians we eat rice routinely. but not for them who suffer diabetes. is rice bad? no, but if somebody with diabetes eat it like normal people do, no doubt he'll be sent to the hospital.

i'm not telling that marriage is bad. how could a sunnah bad? but just like rice to a diabetic, rice is not bad, but it's just bad to them. marriage is urgent, but it's not as urgent as fardu ain things, as well as prioritize our parents [except in disobeying Islamic rules]. think about that too much sometimes makes us embezzle our first priority, that's our parents. no parents want their kids live unhappy [those who abuse their kids are not parents but beasts]. don't queer their pitch.if we don't do it today, how can we ensure we'll do it in the future. we never know where we'll end.

but friends, since marriage is yet no way, don't be sad. an english proverb says 'do what you want with what you have where you are' & recited also by nowseeheart in their 'merancang kerja', we should forget about what we don't have and fully utilise what we have! it's not a bad luck for not experiencing early marriage. it's not necessary that those who get married early are totally blessed. yes, they are, but it doesn't mean that we are neglected. this can't be a postulation.

use this free time to rearrange your life, practise some skills and complete your tasks. don't be madly eager looking at the stars above until we forget about the ground we step on.

open your eyes widers and see the world by your hearts. forget about what we can't do and concentrate on what we can do. no point if we keep on thinking of planting coconuts meanwhile we have a sack of vegetables seed. we should plant vegetables, rite. utilize our sources effectively.

we should have our own benchmark, our own objective and make sure it's genuinely ours without any outsider's influence. if we have competitive and comparative minded, divest it off. we have to aware that all of us are different individuals. not everybody could fit M size, not everybody could fit S size, XL size, and so on. if what others have of done don't motivate us, wipe it off. as long as we obey the rules, nothing's rite nor wrong. we should see this world in just one view, positive. everybody deserves to be happy. and the happiness comes from ourselves internally. we should take the right control of ourselves. don't let others debilitate us.

stop your foolery.

saba ye kawan-kawan...

;B